i just asked for a label
stuck_in_loop_92 · Posted 11 Oct 2026, 03:44
So this happened last night. We were sat on the sofa just watching telly like we do every Sunday. I dont know why I did it but I just asked him what we actually are. It had been nearly a year of this. I just felt like I needed to know. He looked at me and said he isnt ready for a label yet. He said he likes how things are and that he doesnt want to ruin what we have by putting a name on it. I just felt numb. I told him that I wanted more and he just shrugged and said he thought we were fine. Whatever that means. It felt like he was talking about a different relationship entirely. I didnt even argue because I was just so tired. I just went home after that. I feel like I have been waiting for something that isnt ever going to happen. It was a long walk back to my place and I just thought about how many times I have done that journey after one of these talks. I am sorry for the essay, just needed to get this out somewhere. Idk what to do next tbh.
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stop seeing him this week. go ghost for seven days to see if he even notices or cares. you need to break your own habit of going over there every sunday. if he does not reach out, you have your answer.
walk away now, he is just using you for comfort.
been there mate. he is just keeping you as a placeholder until someone better comes along. honestly, screw him. dont waste another year waiting for a guy who cant even commit to a title after twelve months. he is just taking the piss.
honestly reading this proper made me tear up, i was in the exact same spot for two years with a guy who swore we were perfect but just needed time. spoiler alert, he never did. you feel so silly afterwards but its not your fault for wanting more.
i feel for you so much. its that feeling of being a secret, like you are waiting for an invite to your own relationship. please dont stay another week, your heart cant take this kind of waiting anymore. you deserve someone who shouts it from the rooftops.